Family News

If you’re reading this, you may be a friend or family member, and care about Chris and I in some way.  What I’m about to announce is not only extremely personal, it’s also very sensitive.  I figured that I would need support during the coming months and that is why I am sharing it with those we love.  I kept it a secret for so long because I wanted it to be a surprise.  I still want it to be a magical thing.  But I imagine the news will be equally as joyous, if not more, when people understand how we have struggled to achieve it.

Well, here goes...

Chris and I have been trying to get pregnant for an entire year.  With no success.  Not even a miscarriage.

So what does this mean?

It means we could be facing a struggle with infertility.   What is Infertility?  Soon we will begin fertility testing to see why I'm not pregnant yet.  The preliminary tests will include checking hormone levels and a sperm analysis.  Depending on what they find, they may recommend exams or ultrasound monitoring.  They may also recommend fertility drugs or medicines.

I can only hope nothing is horribly wrong and that we won’t require surgery or an invasive procedure.  That is the last thing we want.  But we just don’t know.  And I’m scared.

How can you help?

You can offer words of encouragement.  You can pray for us.  You can show us you care.  Ask us how we're doing.  Ask how the testing and treatments are going.

What about advice?

Honestly, the last thing we need right now is advice.  We have tried everything we can naturally, and we’re already doing everything right.  I have been charting my BBT (basal body temperature) for the past year so I know when I am ovulating.  I am already taking Pre-Natal vitamins.  I have cut back on caffeine and alcohol and Ibuprofen and anything else that could harm a fetus.

This is an emotional subject for us, so please tread kindly.  Infertility is a medical condition, and the emotional strain can be comparable to those struggling with depression and cancer.  We want your love and support and that is why we are including you on this journey.

If you choose to support us and follow us on this journey, I will post regular updates in this blog.  We hope to announce a new member to our family soon.